~*Love & Flaws*~

"Never try to change a person you love, because the very effort to change them says that you love half, and that the other half of the person is not accepted." - Osho

"Every challenge in life is a gift.  And if it does not feel like a gift, that means you haven't learned its lesson yet."  -  Anita Moorjani 

 If I have to change myself for another, that's not love. Maybe it's lust. Or companionship. But it's not love. Because real love is unconditional. And unconditional love is blind. It accepts all flaws. It doesn't judge. It doesn't require change. Unconditional love sees past exteriors & focuses on what's inside.

 I've come to understand that our flaws are actually some of our greatest gifts. They make us unique, special, and of course, human. The challenges our flaws provide teach us valuable life lessons that we simply couldn't learn otherwise. They also allow us to discern who truly loves us unconditionally. By trying to be perfect, we actually make it harder for ourselves to find people who genuinely like us for who we truly are. 

Loving others unconditionally means accepting all of their flaws. It means loving them no matter what they do, look like, feel like, etc. It also means not trying to control them. It means allowing them to do what they want, even if you disagree with it or it doesn't involve you.

"Love is not possession, love is appreciation." - Osho.  

You don't have to be with someone in order to love them. If you love them unconditionally enough, you should want them to be happy, even if it is not with you.

And if you truly love yourself, you won't let anyone treat you differently. You won't go searching for validation in other places. People learn how to treat you by watching how you treat yourself, so act accordingly. Value yourself enough to do what's best for you and your life. Love yourself unconditionally and express your own unique truth.

"If you are searching for the one person who will change your life, take a look in the mirror."

xoxo
Jennifer